How to Deal With Humans’ Inherent Selfishness

Discovering others performing actions with self interest masked by a facade of altruism is a depressing realization. Though we may expect people to operate with their own interests guiding the way, we tend to hope that others sometimes care for our interests too. It is especially depressing when we discover our close friends or family members being inherently selfish in their action and thought. Though they may care for your interests when they’ve satisfied their own, some people do not fail to place their interests over ours when it is a matter of choosing between the two. This train of thought...

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Why Common Courtesy Is Powerful

We tend to remember others’ lapses in common courtesy. Committing kind gestures without receiving a “thank you” in return is demoralizing, and a door not held can ruin a morning’s peace. Acts of common courtesy are small but poignant. They serve to remind us of virtues that we should live by, with respect and kindness leading the way. Common courtesy transcends age, nationality, and gender. It is a language used to propagate the goal of treating others how you want to be treated. Analyzing the positive aspects of exuding commonly courteous behavior may very well be beating a dead horse. This...

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How to Communicate That Others Are a Barrier for Your Work

Though you may be averse to voicing excuses for why you can’t complete a certain task at work or at home, we often find ourselves with no way out. At home, your task of cooking dinner for the family may be halted by a power outage due to scheduled maintenance. At work, your need to evaluate and edit a document at work may depend on a colleague finishing up with it, and closing out on their browser. We’re often limited by others’ actions in just how much work we can put out. People make mistakes, have their own goals,...

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How to Better Communicate Changes to Processes, Products, and Schedules

This article is about a very specific, yet common, aspect of social interaction you’ll likely come across in life. Constant change is a product of time. Changes may come at home, at work, or in the world around you. As you gain influence in life, you’ll maybe even be responsible for enacting and communicating those changes. The changes being made are almost always stemmed from a perspective to improve. The mistake that people make however, is in the way that they communicate the good changes being made to those who are affected by these changes. For example, making a...

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it's becoming hard to filter for useful information. how you choose to do so will dictate who controls how you grow to think

How to Practically Filter for Useful Information

Information can be used to control us, suppress us, and to misdirect us. Information can be key to attaining power, and misinformation can be the trigger to losing it. Information does not come labelled and sorted for us. We seldom know if the information we take in is beneficial to our goals or detrimental to our success. Our time is susceptible to being wasted by useless information, with others benefiting from the attention that we show. The more you think about it, the scarier our lack of control over what we allow to influence our thoughts and actions is. Some...

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Why You Shouldn’t Compliment Difficult Questions Before Answering

This article is about the desire to compliment difficult questions when they catch us off guard. It is not about expressing genuine awe of a masterfully composed inquiry.   If you’ve ever tuned into an interview with a politician on the campaign trail, you’ve likely heard the phrase: “That’s a good question.” Prior to answering – perhaps difficult – questions, some people make it a habit to compliment the question that has them in a bind. The more someone compliments questions others ask them, the less meaningful their compliment becomes. After a while, the compliment begins to adopt an...

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Why You Should Give the Little Guys a Voice

People in positions of authority often treat distant subordinates with less respect than someone they work closely with. Time constraints are at play, and the perceived importance of giving the little guys a voice isn’t strong enough to change behavior. As a subordinate in any organized realm, you’ve likely experienced your input being judged based on your position in the hierarchy within which you interact, rather than on the merits of the ideas you present. Having our input not be taken seriously entices us to either begin trying harder to be heard, or to not try at all. The culture that...

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Why It’s Useful to Be in Tune With Others’ Problems

One of the essential realizations of a growing young adult is the expansion of empathy towards the lives of others. We begin to realize that other people are not just obstacles presenting themselves during our daily routine, but themselves have their own routines, goals, dreams, and journeys. Developing a sense of understanding which places you in the shoes of another is essential to attaining the trust of others. The approach of gaining people’s trust by becoming in tune with the issues that they’re dealing with and offering solutions seldom fails. When dealing with others in the professional or business...

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Why Magicians Who Admit to Magic Not Being Real, Are More Interesting

Magicians/Illusionists have had a tougher go at things due to recent technological advancements and increased spread of common understanding. As high definition cameras and our ability to replay, analyze, and study video has become commonplace, the abilities which they purport to possess are easier to disprove. They can no longer rely on any form of mystique to drive audiences to see them. The magicians that stick by the notion of them tapping into any form of magic in its strict definition are questioned and dismissed. People’s access to information is now vast and speedy. Where there’s a trick worthy of...

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How to Talk to Someone Who Keeps Talking About Themselves

Our own selfishness amidst conversation is a difficult thing to keep tabs on. A person needs to have a tuned sense of others’ perception in order to successfully recognize that they’re talking about themselves too much. Those with a tendency to keep talking about the happenings of their own lives with others can be labeled a variety of things. These people can be anyone from a narcissist, to simply someone who is a socially unpolished individual. There are instances in which we find ourselves in conversations that only serve to benefit the pride of the ones we’re speaking with. As if...

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