Why You Need to Be Capable of Destroying What You Care for Most (Letting Go)

This article is about being cornered by those who seek to bring you pain. Attacks on your image, reputation, and things you care for most are to be expected in life. The work you do and the actions you take will make some happy, someone proud, and others angered. A well-timed attack on you by an enemy can often separate itself from fact. What’s true is often what the audience perceives truth to be. If an enemy of yours does a good-enough job of dressing painful falsehoods as the truth, then the things you care for may very well be on...

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Blank arguments only lead to undesired realms of confrontation and verbal sparring.

Why You Should Recognize and Retreat From Blank Arguments

A common practice of people who do not like you, for whatever reason, is to have a tendency to disagree with anything you say if they can manage to. When you have lost reputation in the mind of another, they will send blank arguments your way. They will disagree with what you say not because of the merits that your words hold, but because of the source they stem from (you). It is still important to remember that some of the arguments those who don’t like you voice will be valid, and include points which are propelled by truth....

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Why It Is Important to Be Vocal About Whom You Respect

Some people are hesitant to expose who their idols are. They seem to feel that their act of revealing who they respect can be used against them. The flaws of the individuals they respect would come back to hurt them in the worst case scenario. People can point out just how bad of a person the ones you award your respect to really are. Others can poke fun at your support of people who may be embarrassing to be a fan of. Vocalizing your respect for certain individuals is thereby a sensitive pursuit. You place yourself as being on...

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Why You Should Practice Not Having an Opinion

Imagine bringing up a photo of the universe on your phone. As you begin to zoom into what you perceive the middle of the photo to be, you find that you continue zooming in to no end. The picture of our alignment with ideas seems to be much the same; of an infinite resolution. We can thereby come close to being in the middle, but seem to constantly miss the mark by just a little bit. This article assumes there to be a difference between not having an opinion and having an opinion which is indifferent. This is written to...

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Why You Shouldn’t Be Cynical When Others Are Entertained

An uncomfortable situation to bear, is one in which an audience member gets selected to be a subject of a magic trick only to go onto trying to debunk the trick. As the trick is being performed, the selected subject closely watches the magician’s hands. They change angles, bend over, and attempt to gain any advantage in being able to know how the magician does their trick. They not only place the magician in an uncomfortable situation, but place the audience in a state of feeling vicarious anxiety on the magician’s part. This article hopes to use the example...

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Why You Shouldn’t Announce That It’s Raining When You Feel a Drop

Feeling the first drops of rain on your forearm may not be an instance you think about too often. You might have however, experienced others announce that it’s raining as they first feel those cold few drops on their skin. Since you would have felt a few drops of your own, you’d likely have already known that information. If not, then you feeling those droplets is simply a circumstance bound by time. Individuals who announce that it’s raining when everyone else can tell it is, assume an educational role in the social circle they’re in. After confidently announcing that...

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How to Get People to Care About Your Misfortunes

Our trials and tribulations are common topics of conversations we have with others. As you partake in normal social behavior with another person, you’ll start off the dialogue with the trivial happenings of life. As the conversation moves forth, you may decide to share a misfortune you experienced the other day. Perhaps someone chipped your car’s paint job at the grocery store parking lot. Or maybe you were stuck in two hour traffic on the way home from work because of the snow storm. We bring up our own misfortunes in conversation for seemingly unknown reasons. Akin to a...

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How to Limit Consequence in Communicating Painful Truth

In the heat of the moment, exclaiming the blatant truth is a romantic idea. We wonder why the raw, harsh truth gets hidden from everyday conversation and sometimes feel like changing that fact. Before you venture on the hero’s journey to giving birth to truth in your world, be aware of exactly why most people shy away from doing just that. Harsh truth brings forth harsh consequences, and audiences react in polarizing ways to it. If the truth you say is meaningful to your audience, you will be loved for it. However, if the truth you voice is information which your...

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How to Disarm / Calm Down Angry People

If you’re doing anything worthwhile in life, you will encounter angry and negative people along the way. Anger for the most part, manifests itself during times in which we lose control of a situation we desperately want to control. People will get angry with you for altering any plan they’ve laid out in their minds, even if you did not know of your potential interference of those plans. Your kids may get angry at you for not allowing them to follow-through with their plans to eat that cookie, or meet with their friends on the playground. Your coworkers may get...

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How to Handle Someone You’re Loyal to Receiving Bad Publicity

Disclaimer: This is not legal advice, and is not centered around defending criminal behavior. We find ourselves in sticky situations when a friend or acquaintance of ours doesn’t act in a respectable manner. We can’t expect those we surround ourselves with to perfectly execute the various acts and behaviors that make up a meaningful life. They’ll sometimes misspeak, they’ll sometimes hurt others, and they’ll sometimes make you feel embarrassed to be seen with them. If you’ve made a decision to remain loyal to an individual who gets themselves in social trouble, then navigating around your desire to stand by them...

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