How Helping Newcomers Succeed Increases Your Influence

The position you attain by way of the daily grind will be precious to you. Whether your goal is to become a vice president of a corporation, a headlining comedian, or the editor-in-chief of a local newspaper, you’ll need to put in years of consistent hard work. You’ll be expected to compete and come out victorious time and time again. You’ll win over many on your way to your desired destination, and will inevitably take some losses too. The competitive realms of life may breed a naturally aggressive mentality toward newcomers in your domain. They will be younger, fitter, smarter,...

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How to Influence Like Marlon Brando

Despite being one of Hollywood’s most popular leading men for numerous decades, Marlon Brando had an uncanny ability to surprise his interviewers – as well as listeners – with his introspective and humble ways of speaking. Living up to, and exceeding, the expectations he carried with him is a difficult thing to do. People idolize and respect Hollywood superstars before they begin speaking and showing their true colors. Being able to live up to those expectations as well as provide substance and perhaps some lessons along the way is an ability that one should study and implement for themselves....

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How to Ask Questions Which Make People Like You

You can say just as much with the questions you ask as you can with straightforward statements. The questions that people ask often speak to us in an implicit manner, while the statements that they make manifest themselves in more explicit ways. We’re written about why implicit speaking is almost always more effective than sending explicit messages, and you should give it a read. With that being established, you should learn how to use the implicit nature of sending messages through the questions you ask in effective ways.  Recognizing Implicit Messages in Others’ Questions  Remember that time you were asked...

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Why You Shouldn’t Benefit off Others’ Vulnerable States

In an effort to be memorable, we have to place ourselves in vulnerable positions. The jokes you perform will leave you in a vulnerable state until laughter from the crowd validates your creativity. The heartfelt speech you deliver leaves you vulnerable to others’ interpretation. Will your passion be interpreted as coming from a place of love or hate? Will your tone be interpreted as soothing or harsh? Will a word you don’t think twice about when speaking get you in trouble with those whose outlook differs from yours? Moments within which we find ourselves vulnerable are sensitive. When we...

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Why You Shouldn’t Hint at Things You’re Not Willing to Say Directly

A bad social habit is one of hinting at painful truths but not willing to say them directly and in full. On the journey where our thoughts turn into words, ideas get compressed and edited. While on their way from our mind into the world, we sometimes realize our blunt ideas wouldn’t sound so good being voiced into the world around us. The setting plays a role in whether our ideas would sound good unedited, but there are some ideas which are not appropriate to voice under most circumstances. The thinker is therefore left with limited options to expel...

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How to Get People to Care About Your Misfortunes

Our trials and tribulations are common topics of conversations we have with others. As you partake in normal social behavior with another person, you’ll start off the dialogue with the trivial happenings of life. As the conversation moves forth, you may decide to share a misfortune you experienced the other day. Perhaps someone chipped your car’s paint job at the grocery store parking lot. Or maybe you were stuck in two hour traffic on the way home from work because of the snow storm. We bring up our own misfortunes in conversation for seemingly unknown reasons. Akin to a...

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How to Act When Someone Doesn’t Take Your Advice

Respectable individuals make informed decisions. There will be times when you’ll play the role of being an advisor to someone who’s making an important decision. You’ll present your findings and opinions on the matter at hand for others to weigh into their act of making a final decision. Sometimes, our advice is listened to but not followed. Though we may know for a fact what we told a person is correct, they’ll sometimes just not subscribe to our suggestions. It seems that there’s a more important fact which consumes and overpowers the facts contained in your advice. That fact...

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Knowing who to assign tasks to can be the difference between successful output and one which is of sub-par nature.

How to Properly Assign Ownership of Tasks

As you grow in attaining positions of importance in life, you’ll often have to make decisions on whether to do work yourself or allow others to try. As someone who seeks order and control, this decision will be a difficult one to make. By assigning ownership to others, you lose a certain level of control over the outcome. You place trust on the person charged with completing the task in question, and will have to check their output to ensure that it meets your standards. There will be people who let you down with the work that they do. Your...

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Why You Should Support Those Who Are Struggling to Learn

There will be people that you meet who grasp concepts slower than you and others around them. These people are either plagued by inexperience in the domain which they’ve been thrown into, or are merely slower at grasping concepts than others. There will be times when you begin to lose patience with these people and feel like taking tasks on alone, assigning responsibility to others, and generally pushing the slower folks away from doing important tasks. Do not fall victim to those feelings. It is critical for you to enable those who are in the learning phases and support them...

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you'll be forced to manage people who undergo tragic life events. how should we go about doing it?

Why the Well-Being of Your Team Members Matters Most

On your task of getting things done at home or work, you’ll have to work with others. While working with the people who help you get your tasks completed, some will triumph and some will fail. Others, will be affected by the happenings around them. You’ll work with people whose parent may have recently passed, and those whose mental health takes a turn for the worst. Handling our relationships with people whose well-being is in a state of suffering is difficult to do. Especially in the workplace, you’ll feel pressure to continue hitting deadlines and be on top of what you...

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