Truth being ignored or dismissed is one of life’s cruel tricks. There are truths later proven right whose presentation was ridiculed or ignored. Cold reactions to communicating something truthful feels like throwing punches at a wall.
It’ll only further hurt rather than get through to those who listen. Internal questions come about on whether what one says is true when they’re ignored. Anger may rise at those who ignore you, and you can find yourself conjuring elaborate schemes to make them listen.
The first step to alleviating the pain of an incapacity to exert control is to accept the fact that you may be wrong in what you think. The second step is to understand that people who choose to ignore the solid truth shouldn’t be forced to listen.
This article aims to communicate reasons why you shouldn’t try to force others to listen to what you have to say.
There Would Be Less Beauty
If you were given the ability to force anyone of your choosing to listen to what you say, then they would be stripped of their autonomy. You would be able to control people in direct manners, and would be able to achieve many self-centered goals. Controlling others in direct, explicit ways, may thereby seem like a desirable goal to work toward. However, life has a funny way of making that goal harder to achieve the more you try.
No person is a slave to anything you or anyone else can say. Acts of management, control, and influence are governed by this rule. Enticement is a skill to study should you be tasked with steering, managing, or directing people.
Discovering tactful methods of altering the behavior of those around you will lead you toward paths which veer away from forceful methods. Influencing others is a game governed by efficiency. The least obtrusive cast the farthest ripples. Trying to become a better manager of people encourages compassion and support rather than rigidity and deterrence. People respond positively to these virtues most in the long-term, making them the currency of good management.
If others were forced to listen to you, you would not strive to improve yourself to make them want to listen. Your words would be taken as gospel, and you’d get lazy with what you say. It would be difficult to assess thoughts and actions seriously, and would limit growth potential.
Allow people to disagree with you in hopes of them finding their own meaning. Allow your audience to explore other avenues which may be more correct than the one you’re on. Maybe you can learn from their discoveries as they feel comfortable challenging your thinking.
Observe the paths that people take in life, and find peace over your lack of control about what they choose to say or do. You’ll discover new sides to life previously unseen, and new perspective on problems you thought you’ve figured out.
There is beauty in the fact that everyone can think for themselves and discover their own truths. Be wary of forceful methods of having one’s perspective heard. If you care for your own autonomy, then realize how untrue things you say might turn out to be. Fear the responsibility you take on by labeling your words as truth; your autonomy can be affected by your own forceful ways.
There Would Be More Regret
The responsibility mentioned above is one which can lead to regret. Should you label information which causes others pain as true, you will subject yourself and others to regret. You will regret for being over-confident in what you spoke into the world, and your listeners will regret listening to you.
Use the fact that others will sometimes ignore what you have to say as perhaps protection from yourself. Use moments you’re unheard as study opportunities by auditing others’ actions in relation to what you thought was right to do. In general, people listen to the things they perceive as beneficial to their state of somatic and cognitive well-being – so take caution forcing otherwise.
Consider disinterest from those you yearn to control as a trigger for improving how beneficial they consider your proposal to themselves. Rather than forcing their adherence to things they don’t consider beneficial, yearn to entice them with genuine value. Be in tune with what people want to listen to rather than what song you think should play. Figuring out ways to say what others don’t want to hear in a manner which entices them to listen is the name of the influencing game.