On your path to fulfilling the goals that you set for yourself, you will sometimes feel a need to get the opinions and advice of those around you. Their advice will help in many ways, and can be a guiding beacon in times of absolute darkness. Something that people often forget is that the quality of advice one receives is dependent on both the giver as well as the receiver of the advice. Your questions for collecting beneficial advice need to be structured well, and be constructed in a manner which fishes out a tangible and actionable piece of advice.
When asking for advice, you need to show the provider of advice that you understand the fundamentals of the topic in question, and that you have thought through the various workflows that have led to you to the point where you are now. Their advice should be distinct, small in scope, and something you can act on right away. That is the best form of advice.
Whom to Ask Advice From and Trying First
Apart from what’s mentioned above, you also need to know whom you should be asking advice from. You should remember that being stuck in a mental or physical predicament does not warrant your asking of advice at face value. You need to first commit yourself fully to figuring out a solution to the problem which you are facing. When you fully commit to solving the problem, you gain valuable knowledge on the subject – even if it doesn’t seem like it – which will help you piece together the advice you receive later on.
Committing yourself to figuring out your issues prior to asking for advice also serves to raise your standards of who you ask advice from. When you try your best to solve your the problem in front of you prior to asking for advice, you will more easily tell who knows what they’re talking about and who does not. If you do not commit yourself to honestly trying and figuring things out your own, you will not have a sense of who is knowledgeable on the subject you are seeking advice for.
The first step is to try solving your issues yourself. The second is to not ask the obvious people for advice. Do not ask a person for advice who a majority of people in your position would ask. In order to receive beneficial advice you need to first try asking people who can look at your problem from a different perspective than you looked at it with. Your advice giver needs to have a fresh outlook on the issue and preferably not be the go-to person for advice of such nature. The people you ask advice from should be connected to the subject at hand from a distance, and not be as committed to the work as you are.
Receiving advice is a vetting out process and you must value your action of taking and applying the advice someone gives you. Taking advice and acting on anther’s suggestions is a process which involves a great amount of trust. Your must select those you trust to give you advice carefully in order to receive rewarding guidance.
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