With any success you see in life, you’ll hear excuses as to what possibly could have propelled you towards it. Even those who give you the credit you deserve will tend to couple it with some sort of explanation. They will credit your ability to focus, your ability to learn quicker than others, and your natural ability to organize information into something of value. There will be few people properly enamored by your success without adding commentary as to what may have helped you along the way. This is not a bad thing, and you shouldn’t take these comments to heart. The comments and excuses people make surrounding your success are their attempts at understanding rather than criticizing.
This article will make arguments for why you should never argue with the excuses people make for your success, and perhaps motivate you agree with them. These arguments are founded on what matters most; your growth as a human being. In order to know whether or not it’s worth arguing with those who make excuses for your success, we should analyze the ways every action you take in the face of these events affects you. It’s also worth thinking about how your actions in these circumstances influence those around you.
Your Secrets: An Exposé
Excuses for your success will seldom encompass the whole recipe of what makes you successful. The things others come up with are efforts to understand how you got to your position which are often lazy in their analysis. Once you hear a lazy excuse for your success, you’ll want to respond with the truth. Should you tell this person what was actually the case on the way towards success? Your experiences may differ from what they’ve labelled as the recipe to your success, and you’ll feel a desire to correct them.
Before you do, ask yourself this: Is it worth telling them the real recipe to your success? People who make excuses for our success are those who are interested in it. This interest is motivated by a myriad of things, but competition can be one of them. Making excuses for someone else’s success can open them up to spill the beans – if you will. Forcing someone to defend against falsehoods is a more effective way of getting them to divulge information than by merely asking.
Be careful of defending your work ethic against the excuses that others make. These excuses are likely to hurt nothing other than your pride, but defending them with truth can lower your competitive advantage. Agreeing with the excuses others make for your success serves to benefit you. The more inaccurate they are, the more you’ll benefit from them. These inaccuracies will keep people off your tail, and motivate competitors to follow unrealistic steps in hopes of achieving the same success.
Where Pride Gets You
If you defend yourself against the excuses others make for your success, you will be operating on pride alone. This pride will not only give up any secrets to your work, but can hurt you in unexpected ways as well. Say you were to adamantly defend over-simplified excuses for your success in giving a presentation at work. Perhaps others have been saying that you’re a naturally gifted speaker, and that it must have not been hard for you to go up there and nail the presentation. Defending the time you spent practicing for the big day will serve to show others that these statements rung a bell.
Those who feel the need to defend excuses for their success must at least feel threatened by their truth. They don’t have to believe them per se, but the possibility of these excuses being valid scares them enough to try defending them. Defending these excuses successfully will equate to disproving them, thereby eliminating that small possibility of them turning out to be right. People pick up on this fear when you defend yourself. They will thereby know what buttons they need to press to get a response, and a series of these buttons will expose a general framework to catching you off guard.
Keep people guessing at how you’ve achieved success in order to maintain your competitive advantage as well as to keep the framework to your downfall hidden. Their acts of making excuses for your success should be punishment enough, as they’ll be lost on their journey to understand and mimic what you do.