Learning to master your tone of voice will help you get away with a lot in life. The tone with which you speak is more understood by your listener than the words you’re saying. In critical moments of our day, we can lose control of the tone which we speak with. The changes in our tone are executed by emotional responses within our bodies. The trigger of the emotional response is not as much of a concern as your reaction to the trigger. In order to correct your tone of voice, you need to correct the initial triggers for your tone turning negative.
Don’t Always Sound Happy
Contrary to popular belief, a happy tone of voice is not to be used during every waking hour. Those people are not trusted, as their happy tone of voice is merely a cheap one. Your happy tones need to come out in response to the perfect triggers. There are moments in normal conversation in which happy tones can benefit you greatly. This is the reasoning for keeping happy tones as a part of your social identity. Negative tones of voice and thought should be totally eliminated. Screaming, yelling, and being physically offensive are garbage traits from the pit of our roots. They do not serve much (or any) positive results to our lives.
You must eliminate the negative tones of voice which you speak with. The trigger for those tones of voice needs to be analyzed. Behavior change takes time and a lot of trial and error. It seems extremely difficult for humans to turn things on or off about themselves with only the power of their mind. So be prepared to work hard for something like your tone of voice to change.
The Nuances With Which You Speak
Your tone is more complex than you think. It isn’t just happy, medium, and sad. There are tones of aggression that are very fine, which people respond to subconsciously rather notice explicitly. That means the tone you use can make people react in a way you want them to without any control. Your tone is much more likely to draw emotion from your listener than the content that you say. You can draw emotion which will help your cause, hurt theirs, or make them look in a way that you design.
The people who master tone master it to a level which a normal ear can’t notice. They master the very subtleties of the art, and are able to shape your emotions and reactions without you have any idea. Tone is an undertone of all verbal communication, yet so few are masters of it. Very few even acknowledge it in their plans for speaking. People think very little about what they say to a point of overlooking tone.
In order to control tone you must control what triggers the change of your tone. When you change your tone for the better or worse, there are triggers to you doing so. Figure out what these triggers are and learn how to manage them.
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