How to Become a Master of Your Tone of Voice

This is a quick article on how best to study and alter the tone with which you speak.

Learning to master your tone of voice will help nudge the world around you in a move positive direction. Your tone can be remembered longer than the words which carry your tone to listeners’ ears. In critical moments of our day, we can lose control of the tone with which we speak. The trigger of an emotional response is not as much of a concern as your reaction to the trigger. Correcting your tone to appropriately contribute to any social situation is thereby an exercise which starts at studying your reactions to the plethora social triggers in day-to-day life.

There Is a Fine Line Between Being Pleasant and Being Fake

Contrary to popular belief, a happy tone of voice is not to be used during every waking hour. Those people are not trusted, as their happy tone of voice turns cheap in times it doesn’t match the mood. Keep focused on the reactions to you have to social triggers. The key to mastering your tone is to neutralize negative reactions with a calm tone, and allow your tone to react to genuinely positive triggers.

Every dialogue has triggers to react to. People will tell you things they did over the weekend, and subordinates will anger you with excuses for incomplete work. Managing your reaction to such triggers in an effective manner requires practice and quick thinking. Sooner or later, a habit will be built. You’ll distinguish between various types of triggers and allow your tone to react appropriately to the positive ones whilst ignoring the negative.

A novice in this game is one who adopts a pleasant demeanor and plasters every social interaction with it. Their audience will be receptive at first, as a positive tone often serves as a beam of light in dark grey days. The darkness of realizing inauthenticity driving such an individual’s demeanor will engulf that short-lived beam of light however. Inauthenticity in someone’s optimistic tone and demeanor becomes discovered when their tone doesn’t match the respective social trigger. It doesn’t make too much sense for someone’s tone to remain equally as vibrant to social triggers of varying degrees. Rules of hierarchy and priority are important to follow in the positive direction when responding to social triggers.

The Effort Becomes Nuanced Quickly

As you refrain from seeming fake yet still attempting to exude optimism with your tone of voice, you’ll realize the sheer amount of social corners for you to discover and learn in this pursuit. Especially with negative triggers, instances of bad news, or social challenges emanating from aggressive individuals, the management of your reactions to certain social triggers becomes important and very nuanced. You’ll learn when to use deescalating tones, and when to escalate a timid individual’s concern to seniority in your organization.

The general direction is to always contribute to moving a dialogue or situation to more pleasant tones. However, getting there can involve utilizing tones which wouldn’t be labeled pleasant if they stood alone without context. Those who are too timid in potentially dangerous instances haven’t learned that lesson. Being at a vantage point of seeing someone blindly cross a street whilst a vehicle speeds though the blind corner is a situation which demands you to escalate your tone to almost violent realms.

Always remember that your tone is yet another tool to use to make the world a better place. Most don’t think of it that way because they don’t realize the power in utilizing the perfect tone at the perfect time.


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Disclaimer of Opinion: This article is presented only as opinion. It does not make any scientific, factual, or legal claims in any way.