You’ve made mistakes in your life, and so has everyone that your eyes are laid on. No human exists who bats 1.000 and there’s no person who is always right in what they do or say. Realizing that you will mess up in life is essential to accept and adapt towards. You should not aim to be a perfect human being, as you will never become one. You need to learn how to accept your mistakes, mitigate their effects on those around you and yourself, and then try to use them to your advantage.
Your Mistakes Will Be “Called Out”
Our mistakes and mess-ups leave us in an uncomfortable and disliked situation. Mess-ups rustle the waters in our stagnant lives and are opportunities for growth, if you decide not to drown yourself in those waters. There will be people who try to drown you in the waters of your mistakes. These attempts to drown you in your mistakes will come fast and come with ill intentions. Know that your mistakes will be seen and noticed by others. When your mistakes become noticed by others, there will be people who try to capitalize on your mistakes. These attempts to capitalize on your shortcomings will be labelled as ‘call-outs’ for the purpose of this article.
Call-outs from others will come in many different forms. One of the most common forms of call-out you’ll be a victim of will be in the form of strategic questions. These questions will ask for the answer which you do not want to say and explain the reasoning behind. The answer to their call-out in the form of the question will expose the mistake of yours that you prefer to stay hidden. Other forms of call-outs will be more direct. People will test your poise in the times of failure, and you must stay unhinged.
Calling Out their Call-Outs
One of the most effective ways to combat the call-outs of those who are looking to capitalize on your mistakes is to call out their attempt prior to them making it. There are two ways you can call-out their attempt to capitalize on your failure – before they deliver it, and during the time of their delivery.
Calling out their malicious attempts before their delivery of their attempt is a tricky undertaking. You will need to read their patterns and have a strong feeling of forthcoming call-outs on their part. Typically, question-based call-outs will have leading questions littered with clues as to what is coming. You need to take a chance and make the call-out before they have a chance to do so. When calling out their call-outs, you will inevitably have to take ownership of whatever mistake of yours the other person is trying to capitalize on. In doing so, you control the power dynamic of the call-out and the truth is not as important as who wields it in this case. You will first have to admit to the truth of your mistake and then call out the truth of their attempt at using it against you.
Alternatively, calling out the call-out after it has been delivered is easier to time but harder to execute. In this case, the other person wields the power of truth for a brief moment until you deliver the truth of them trying to use a mistake you made against you. Realizing the truth of what they are trying to do and calling it out will shift the power dynamic to your favor, as the latter truth will hold more power than the prior.
Hopefully you follow the rather broad language used in this article and all of its call-out dynamics. Taking ownership of your mistakes and winning over those who aim to use them against you is a matter of racing to the truth. Whoever does it first and more effectively will win the interaction and thereby the audience that surrounds it.