The reasons for seldom mentioned facets of human influence. Learn the reasons behind the actions, thoughts, and understanding of those you influence.
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All the Whys:
- Why Calling Out Imitators Is Effective at Swaying Public Perception
- Why Tough Times Form Better Friendships
- Why You Shouldn’t Be Quick to Fill the Awkward Silence
- Why Your Quest to Find Meaning Will Turn Up Short
- Why You Should Speak Clearly and Directly
- Why You Should Be Careful Around Others’ Self-Deprecating Jokes
- Why You’re Reading Your Own Thoughts Right Now
- Why You Should Quickly Act on Extrinsic Motivation
- Why You Should Be Careful on Your Quest for Influence
- Why Your Reactions to Others’ Bluffs Are More Important Than You Think
- Why You Should Encourage Others to Own Your Good Ideas
- Why You Should Explain Steps to Break Commitments Before They’re Made
- Why It’s Important to Miss Out on Some Social Events
- Why You Should Be Charitable With Your Knowledge
- Why You Shouldn’t Scold Those Who Worry About You
- Why Magicians Who Admit to Magic Not Being Real, Are More Interesting
- Why You Should Take a Chance on Hiring an Inexperienced Employee
- Why the Well-Being of Your Team Members Matters Most
- Why You Should Remember One Thing Before Showing Off
- Why False Accusations Are Interesting to Onlookers
- Why Conflict Can Be a Good Thing for Your Growth
- Why You Shouldn’t Exploit Every Rule That’s in Your Favor
- Why You Should Be Careful Publicizing Internal Team Disagreements
- Why You Shouldn’t Vary in Your Show of Attention
- Why You Should Be Calm When Introducing People to Those Whom You Disagree With
- Why You’re Vulnerable When Receiving Favors From Others
- Why There Are Traps to Being Overly Private / Secluded
- Why Compliments Directed at Others Aren’t Criticisms Directed at You
- Why You Should Say Which One You Like More, Not Which One You Dislike
- Why You Should Be Careful Publicly Correcting Members of Your Team
- Why You Shouldn’t One-Up Recommendations You Receive
- Why You Shouldn’t Stare at a Speaker’s Hand Gestures
- Why You Should Give the Little Guys a Voice
- Why You Shouldn’t Ask Onlookers to Back Up Your Opinion
- Why Predicting Others’ Behavior Starts With You
- Why Communication Can Only Be Artistic If It Is Useful First
- Why Foreign Terms and Acronyms Repel Rather Than Attract
- Why You Need to be Tuned Into the Reactions of Others
- Why You Shouldn’t Be Self-Deprecating After an Objectively Good Performance
- Why You Should Admit to the Unfair Advantages You Possess
- Why You Win Strategically When You Forgive
- Why You Should Beware of Praise at Work
- Why You Should Encourage Your Students’ Exploration of Other Experts in Your Field
- Why You Should Race Toward the Details
- Why You Should Allow, and Encourage, Others to Be Resilient
- Why It’s Beneficial to Confirm Others’ Observations of You
- Why There Is a Case for Keeping Certain People You Know Separated
- Why You Shouldn’t Be Too Harsh in Dismissing Unfounded Claims as a Skeptic
- Why You Shouldn’t Compliment Difficult Questions Before Answering
- Why People Will Slander Trivial Aspects of Those They Compete Against
- Why You Shouldn’t Brag About Taking a More Difficult Path
- Why You Should Never Take the Bait – (Scams, Frauds, Rackets, & Tricks)
- Why Your Kind Help Is Bound to Get Rejected
- Why Those Who Warn You Aren’t Wishing You Bad Luck
- Why You Should Agree With Excuses for Your Success
- Why You Should Hear People Out in Full
- Why Victims of Oppression Grow More Loving
- Why You’re Not a Chef If You Simply Like Cooking
- Why There Is No Winning When on a Quest for Peace
- Why You Should Confront Every Doubt (in Yourself and Others)
- Why You Shouldn’t Describe Subordinates / Employees Like You Own Them
- Why Being Average Is Good
- Why You Shouldn’t Announce That It’s Raining When You Feel a Drop
- Why You Should Recognize Verbal Jabs but Not React
- Why Your Weaknesses Will Be Exploited
- Why You Should Let Go of Your Ideas
- Why To Avoid Asking Leading Questions in Everyday Life
- Why Giving Pointers After the Fact Is Better Than Giving Advice Going Forward
- Why Loneliness Is the Final Boss in Your Journey Toward Your Goals
- How to Become a Master of Your Tone of Voice
- Why You Shouldn’t Explain Why You’re Helping Someone
- Why You Will Never Fully Know and Understand Anyone
- Why You Shouldn’t Use Words Which Minimize Your Mistakes
- Why the Waves of Life Will Wash Over Every Hole You Dig
- Why You Should Be Careful Talking About A Streak of Failures
- Why You Should Reward Others’ Effort
- Why Busy Schedules Are Not the Reason You Never See Your Friends
- Why You Should Want to Lead a Pack
- Why You Should Thoroughly Analyze Your Own Interests
- Why It Is Weak to Be Predictable
- How to Stop Interrupting Others & Why You Should
- Why Being Respected is Better Than Being Well-Liked
- Why You Shouldn’t Shame the Owners of Bad Ideas
- Why You Shouldn’t Be Too Enthusiastic About Your Good Ideas
- Why You Should Know, but Not Say, What Others Want to Hear
- Why It Is Important to Be Vocal About Whom You Respect
- Why You Should Notice, but Not Expose, Others’ Mental Weaknesses
- Why Your Patterns Are More Important Than Your Acts in Stealth
- Why You Should Label Your Statements As Opinions, Not Truth
- Why Silence / Ignoring Is a Powerful Psychological Warfare Tool
- Why We’re Irked by People Who Embellish an Accent (Posers)
- Why Complaining About Where You Stand Will Get You Demoted
- Why They’ll Listen Less the More You Sing
- Why You Should Talk About Dreams With Strangers
- Why There’s Never a Reason to Get Angry Over Others’ Mistakes
- Why Bullying Your “Haters” Often Backfires
- Why Saying Things Implicitly Is Better Than Speaking Explicitly
- Why You Shouldn’t Throw Your Phone on Your Bed or Couch
- Why Behavior Online Is Shaped by Small Inconveniences, Not Big Walls
- Why You Should Remind People of Their Past Victories
- Why You Should Be Careful Being in First Place
- Why Claiming That Your Critics Are Projecting Is Effective at Silencing Them
- Why It’s Best to Own the Embarrassing Things Others Use Against You
- Why You Should Tell Them They’re Ahead of Others Their Age
- Why You Shouldn’t Alienate People When You Criticize Them
- Why You Shouldn’t Make People Characters in the Examples You Use to Teach Them
- Why You Should Cater to Cultural Norms
- Why You Shouldn’t Retaliate Against Someone’s Irrational Negativity
- Why Altruism and Self-Importance Do Not Mix
- Why You Should Be Careful Establishing Someone’s Excellent Reputation
- Why You Should Be Careful Making Friends at Work
- Why Common Courtesy Is Powerful
- Why You Grow When You Encourage Growth
- Why You Should Treat Superiority as a Privilege
- Why Challenging Someone’s Knowledge Is Effective in Gathering Information
- Why the Things You Ignore Will Only Grow
- Why You Should Ask Yourself Two Things Before Exposing Secrets
- Why You Should Challenge Bad Arguments Which Support Your Position
- Why Allowing a Team’s Release of Pent-Up Frustration Keeps You in Power
- Why You Should Cancel Out Others’ Intuition
- Why Narcissists Tend to Complain a Lot
- Why You Hate Your Neighbor / Roommate… And How To Stop
- Why It’s Better to Leave Earlier Than Later
- Why You Shouldn’t Be Cynical When Others Are Entertained
- Why You Should Let Acceptance Simmer by Itself
- Why You Should Let Others Play Music in the Car
- Why Marketing Should Not Hold Power Over Truth
- Why You Shouldn’t Smile in Every Photo
- Why Your Known Opponents Will Salivate When Others Criticize You
- Why Having the Right “Enemies” Can Benefit You
- Why You Shouldn’t Refute Online Criticism of Your Work
- Why You Should Be Very Careful Labeling Anything As Right or True
- Why Fame Is a Trap – A Detailed Explanation of Unrelatability’s Poison
- Why You Should Fill the Kettle With More Water Than You’ll Drink
- Why You Should Label People to Be Early Fans of Good Things
- Why You Shouldn’t React to Hate From a Select Few
- Why “Yes Men” Are Dangerous, and How to Easily Spot Them
- Why Attacking the Person Behind an Argument Is an Automatic Loss
- Why Someone’s Compliment Is Not a Sign That They Want More
- Why No One Cares How Hard You Work (Until You Achieve Your Goals)
- Why You Should Reward People Who Speak up When You Hurt Them
- Why Complimenting Yourself Does Not Count
- Why It’s Good to Be Inclusive to Outsiders as a Group
- Why You Should Be Low-key While Giving Gifts
- Why You Should Embrace the Lonely Facets of Leadership
- Why Teasing (Seduction) Is a Crucial Part of Teaching
- Why You Should Fear the Unknown Parts of Others’ Stories
- Why Some Millionaires Drive Cheap Cars
- Why You Should Support Those Who Are Struggling to Learn
- Why You Shouldn’t Ask Friends for Special Treatment While They’re at Work
- Why You Shouldn’t Complain About Being Busy
- Why You Should (Sometimes) Publicize Your Failures
- Why the Square Watermelon Will Make You a Better Person
- Why You Should Switch Seats With People Who Want to Sit Together
- Why You Shouldn’t Ignore Employees’ Displeasure
- Why You Should Treat Subordinates As Peers
- Why You Shouldn’t Brag About Your Big Numbers
- Why You Should Be Gentle Correcting Naive People
- Why You Should Recognize and Retreat From Blank Arguments
- Why People Over-Complicate What They’re Good At
- Why a Divine Connection Is a Powerful, but Cheap, Method in Maintaining Influence
- Why You Can’t Force Others to Listen
- Why You Should Study the Mechanisms of Productive Action
- Why You Should Not Exploit Favors Others Do for You
- Why You Shouldn’t Benefit off Vulnerable People
- Why You Need to Be Capable of Destroying What You Care for Most (Letting Go)
- Why You Should Encourage Others to Give Out Compliments
- Why You Can’t Be Picky When Receiving Favors
- Why There Are Pitfalls to Reintroducing Yourself After an Absence
- Why You Shouldn’t Argue With Final Decisions at Work
- Why You Shouldn’t Look for Holes in a Curious Student’s Exploration
- Why You Hate When People Show You Videos on Their Phones
- Why Giving Unsolicited Advice is Dangerous
- Why You Should Be Careful Bringing Up People’s Past
- Why You Should Seek the Most Painful Information
- Why Others’ Suspicion of You Can Be a Good Thing
- How to Get the Most From Being Anonymous Online
- Why and When You Should Expose Ulterior Motives for Others’ Anger
- Why Those Whom You Distract Will Hate You
- Why Your Partner’s Cooking Always Tastes Good
- Why You Should Be Open to Receiving Kindness
- Why You Should Practice Not Having an Opinion or Identity
- Why You Shouldn’t Win Now at the Risk of Losing Later
- Why Having a Nice Carpet / Rug Is an Easy Way to Impress Guests
- Why People Like You When You Learn From Them
- Why You Shouldn’t Be Quick to Use Commanding Statements
- Why You Should Give People Time to Admit Their Wrongs
- Why Damaging Remarks Are More Painful When Shrouded in Kindness
- Why It’s Strategic to Downplay Your Experience
- Why It’s Better If Others Defend You
- Why You Shouldn’t Over-Advertise Your Credentials
- Why You Should Analyze Live Performances
- Why the Observer Identity Is a Social Hack
- Why Tutoring / Training Is an Easy Way to Grow Authority
- Why Giving Nicknames Is an Effective Method of Control
- Why You Should Handle Deception in a Subtle Way