Why There Is No Winning When on a Quest for Peace

You’ll find yourself in positions of defending others in life. Your friends will find themselves in altercative situations, your elderly parents will have their parking spot stolen, and your kids will be bullied at school. As someone who strives to become a leader in the community you foster and propel toward growth, you’ll be looked to for protection. Your kids will come home with tears running down their face, and your frail old parents will make you feel regret for not being there to protect them against malice. This article is about your conduct in the face of a...

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Why Online Anonymity Should Make You More Positive

The incidence of negative dialogue within online communities is common when its users maintain their anonymity. People feel protected by anonymity, and experience fewer social barriers in sharing their – perhaps hurtful – opinions. The ability to express displeasure is an important aspect of anonymity. It allows for an honest discussion of ideas, and encourages a communal search for some of the harshest truths. Habits form quickly when we’re blind to their formation however, and some people make spreading negativity online a habit. You’ve likely experienced hurtful dialogue along with other darker social behaviors online, and can draw from your own...

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How to Lessen the Pain of Goodbyes

Goodbyes are painful because we fear forgetting and being forgotten. If you were to approach the painful feeling of saying goodbye as a problem with potential solutions, then being memorable is a good first start. In order for goodbyes to hurt less, you need to find effective ways of lingering in the minds of others for a long time. If your ideas live on inside the minds of who you interact with after you are no longer physically there, then you will feel the pain of goodbyes less.  This needs to be a two-channel approach however, and you must make every...

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How to Recover From Being Embarrassed – And Gain Respect Doing So

Embarrassing moments are difficult to recover from. You’ll find yourself playing moments of embarrassment over in your mind, and those regret-filled thoughts can paralyze you in similar situations down the line. Embarrassing moments can lead to emotional decisions being made and cause extreme anxiety during the moment in question. The first thing you should remember is that nobody goes through life without being embarrassed a few times. The feelings are normal, and you wouldn’t be of a healthy mind if you didn’t instantly regret some things you’ve done or said. So how should you conduct yourself in moments of embarrassment? This...

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How to Use All Or Nothing Negotiation Techniques Successfully

During times of negotiation, whether they relate to professional or personal agreements, you’ll be faced with deciding on the type of negotiation techniques to implement. All or nothing  propositions should generally be avoided, as they put you, as well as the people you’re negotiating with in an uncomfortable position. Drastic propositions can turn ugly, and you may find yourself losing your job, your friends, or other relationships you’ve worked long and hard to build. However, the bigger your ask, the larger the consequences typically are for both parties. All or nothing propositions are used when people ask for something big and...

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Why You Should Treat Superiority as a Privilege

You work hard to get to the position you see yourself achieving. Whether that position involves leading the team which you were once a member of, or getting hired as a head of an organization, rising up in professional ranking takes committed hard work. Achieving what we work hard for is a pleasant feeling. We feel validated, our ambitious vision is now aligned with reality, and we feel a tremendous sense of accomplishment. These feelings can encourage you to act in ways that others perceive as prideful. Your new-found importance can cause you to take others less seriously than you...

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Why You Shouldn’t Vary in How You Show Attention. The Effect It Has on People Watching From Outside

Why You Shouldn’t Vary in Your Show of Attention

The people in your life are grouped into various mental categories. These categories aren’t linear in their listing. Specific categories may distinguish the level of trust you have for your various friends. Other categories can represent which floors your acquaintances at work sit on. In an effort to articulate the motive of this article, the following example will be used: The person you sit next to at work typically demands your kind attention. You sometimes get a coffee with them during your break, and are warm to each other in conversation. This person reciprocates the warmth with which you treat...

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How to Utilize Expectations as a Method of Control

There may have been instances growing up when your parents weren’t as supportive of your interests as they could have been. For many kids, these moments are heart-breaking and are the first inklings of the lonely nature of the life we live. If we couldn’t attain our own parents’ support, then whose support would we be able to attain moving forward? This lack of support, and perhaps a lapse in setting positive expectations, is a powerful deterrent to a child continuing to pursue their interests. They begin to feel that their parents don’t expect them to prevail, and their...

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How to Limit Consequence in Communicating Painful Truth

In the heat of the moment, exclaiming the blatant truth is a romantic idea. We wonder why the raw, harsh truth gets hidden from everyday conversation and sometimes feel like changing that fact. Before you venture on the hero’s journey to giving birth to truth in your world, be aware of exactly why most people shy away from doing just that. Harsh truth brings forth harsh consequences, and audiences react in polarizing ways to it. If the truth you say is meaningful to your audience, you will be loved for it. However, if the truth you voice is information which your...

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Why You Should Look for the Good in Others

You may have noticed by now that people have their good and bad days. The ones we respect sometimes let us down by acting out in ways which the people we have little respect for would act like. We’re often conflicted while witnessing someone having a bad day. We question whether what we see is in fact their natural state of being, or simply a rare event of them losing their composure. The decisions we make at the moment of seeing someone act in ways which are unpleasant can serve to define how we interact with them going forward. In an...

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