Why You Shouldn’t Ask Onlookers to Back Up Your Opinion

Picture yourself witnessing a heated debate between two acquaintances. As the conversation rages onward, their disagreement seems to keep swelling. Feelings are getting involved, and both people fear their opinion being labelled as wrong by others. In your comfortable state of being an objective onlooker, you’re free to think what you want of the disagreement in front of you. You’re impartial to the two polar opposites in the situation at hand. As you continue to analyze the disagreement between the two in front, one of them turns to you and looks you in the eye. “Can you back me...

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Why You Should Show Love to Who They Already Love

Some people are careful in allowing others into their lives. Negative experiences dictate how careful we are in interacting with people who fit the patterns we’ve determined to be dangerous. Perhaps they’re afraid of being lied to, being tricked, and being played. You can’t guess which negative experiences dictate how careful someone is letting you into their life. Being surgical in making people like you is thereby a case by case analysis. Some people don’t trust those with beards, or those who smoke cigarettes. Some people are wary of others who are overly charismatic, or inordinately kind. Guessing the...

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In order to have an ability to make autonomous decisions, you need to know when people are pushing an agenda.

How to Gauge When Someone’s Pushing an Agenda

A rather depressing realization of life is that people generally approach us only if they see benefit in doing so. There are those you’re close to and who love you for who you are – but this unconditional love comes only from a select few. People will try to change your mind and they’ll try to sway you. They’ll sell you benefits and hide the detriments. They’ll smile when the door’s open and frown when it’s closed. All of us has have an agenda of some sort, both in hidden and public form. This article’s public agenda is to educate those who...

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How to Turn Your Enemies into Allies

Passion represents itself in a variety of ways throughout life. The passion with which somebody hates you can be utilized for good with the momentum that it carries. You should aim to utilize all passion displayed towards you for beneficial purposes. Whether you derive these benefits specifically for yourself or for those around you is your decision. However, with some simple guiding principles, you can turn the passion with which your enemies hate you with into a passionate affection of becoming an ally. By being your enemy, these people have already completed the first step required to becoming an...

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How to Exude an Essence of Reliability – 3 Things to Remember

Being perceived as reliable can supplement your success. Reliability is an attractor of favorable interaction, whether it be in business, work, or school. Reliability takes a long time to establish. A simple act of letting someone down can ruin a year’s worth of work that you’ve put into being considered as a reliable individual. Apart from consistency and time being on your side, this article hopes to remind you of three things to remember doing in an effort to be seen as a reliable individual. A trait of reliability is a powerful thing to have spread about you by...

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How to Get Someone to Try New Things

Talking people into trying something new is hard work. Sometimes, trying something new is a process of breaking some identifies you’ve considered yourself to be labeled by. A person who’s considered themselves to be afraid of large bodies of open water is not likely to dive off a 20-foot cliff into the Mediterranean sea. The longer that a person has held onto an identity of any sort, the harder it will be to entice that person to act in ways which contradict their identity. The fear of reevaluating one’s own identity is at the root of the fear of...

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our friends can limit our growth, how should we handle these situations?

How to Deal With Friends Who Hold You Back

The friendships you develop in life will help you in many aspects of it. Apart from our primal need to seek comradery and social connection, friendships also contribute to our personal growth. The friends you develop in the professional realm will allow you to take advantage of opportunities you may not have had access to alone. Friends help us when we experience difficult life events, and can serve to connect us with others whom we go onto call our friends. Your friends in life form the social setting into which you fall. Being pulled into a social circle by the...

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Why You Should Be Inconspicuous While Giving Gifts

Gift-giving is an odd cross-cultural behavior. A myriad of potential answers present themselves if you explore the question of why gifts are given. As a guiding principle, the primary motive seems to be to increase mutual positive feeling and interaction. Other factors do creep into this thought exercise however. Could giving gifts be a sophisticated method of feeding one’s own ego? Do we like ourselves more when we give gifts to others? It is difficult to believe that humans can act in absolutely unselfish ways. Gift-giving is supposed to be an exercise whose primary focus is the gift-receiver. The moment is...

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How to Win by Sometimes Losing

The path to greatness involves the act of winning battles along the way. These battles can present themselves clothed in many forms, but one thing is for sure: you’ll need to win a consecutive series of them to be successful. Amidst heated competition, our instincts become to attack what is keeping us from attaining what we desire, and to destroy those who stand in our way. When on a consistent winning streak against the obstacles that are in your way, you’ll want to keep on going and keep on winning. However, in the context of competing against a limited...

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Why It May Not Be Obvious Whether You Should Correct Others

Disclaimer: This article’s presentation is bound to a context within which others’ incorrect ideas pose no immediate danger to themselves or those around them.   On average, people aren’t anywhere near perfect in their attempts to memorize facts. Like sand in an hourglass, information tends to leak into oblivion as soon as one stops actively accessing it. The facts we attempt to recite after letting them sit in the back of the mind for a little too long can often come out deformed enough to be incorrect. Time is a mechanism of change for our thoughts. Another mechanism of change,...

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